Stop yelling at the kids already! Let’s keep calm.
We’re in the thick of it. Right now, is the epitome of busy season. I say that using present tense; but, we all know the reality of motherhood. It’s been like this for years and it’ll probably never stop. Present. Past. Future. We spin our wheels, adding more and more to the agenda. Little toddler is yanking at our clothes while tiny baby is spilling juice all over the danged carpet. Then, the explosion. Seconds after, we find ourselves wishing we could stop yelling at the kids, already. Well mamas, let’s keep calm. This post is here to help. Together, we will overview a few methods and perspectives about why we’re even yelling in the first place.
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To begin, let’s talk about grace.
We are human. Additionally, we’re imperfect. Ok, tell me something that’s NOT so obvious. Well, mom that is suffering from burnout, did you know that mom guilt is all in your thoughts? Do you have any clue, that you were made for something better; and, it’s time to learn about power of grace?
You see, without mercy, we fall short. And, when we fall short, we worry. It’s THAT apprehension, and anxiety, that blocks us from being who we were really meant to be. It prevents us from momming to the fullest and down right shuts down our potential. The result… we are not clear thinkers and when an activating event occurs, our first instinct is to scream. It’s important that we get a grip on those types of situations so we can stop yelling at our children.
Next, put your thoughts into action.
So, let’s pause and ask some logical questions.
- Why am I yelling?
- Will yelling give a different result than if I talked in a normal tone?
- Would my child be impacted negatively?
- Was the negative impact worth the result?
When things start to feel a little tense, it’s time to take a breather. Go into the other room and make a mental assessment. I’m a huge disbeliever of multitasking and when I start feeling the pressure, it’s mainly because too much is going on. Parents, you really have to inquire within your soul if all the things you are trying to accomplish need to be accomplished right that moment. Are you aiming for peace, presence, or perfection?
Third, ask for help.
It goes without saying, our hands are full. I write an entire newsletter about it. Hence, there is nothing wrong about asking for help. Sometimes, to stop yelling at the kids, all we need is a little mom self care, and a get away. Of all the habits I had to learn, this was the hardest. I used to struggle with asking for help; but now, I make it a routine. This has nothing to do about incompetency or laziness. This is strictly the acceptance that we, no matter what works we do, cannot save ourselves.
Thus, don’t forget to be verbal about the little things. We teach our children not to fear, and to use assertion in their voices… dear mom, you NEED to do the SAME. Speak up when you could use a hand, because, as said earlier they are full.
Last, to stop yelling at your kids, let’s break it down in steps.
It’s time to review everything we just talked about. With that being said, here’s a short and sweet list of steps to help you stop yelling at your kids, once and for all.
- Assess the situation.
- Use grace to shift your tone.
- Take a breather.
- Ask for help.
- Determine if you want peace, presence, or perfection.
In conclusion, thank you for reading this post. Although it is blatantly clear that no one has the right to judge you, we REALLY want you to walk away with that. We are all moms. We have ALL yelled. Our mission, as a site, is to provide encouragement and be a resource that advocates positivity for mothers. (Read more about us here) Thus, if you decide to comment below, please stick to these principles.
As always, when your hands are full, live your life to the fullest.