Sitting Still Is Self-Care

Sitting Still Is Self-Care; Well Part Of It, Anyways

Sitting Still Is Self-Care; Well Part Of It, Anyways

I, personally, like to move. The reasons are numerous; such as, I’m a total fidgeter; as well as, an avid coffee drinker. Basically, fiddling with things runs in my blood. You should know, at very least, if I’m trying to hide my movement, I’m secretly wiggling my toes inside of my shoes. Often, you’ll see me type while standing; and, switch seats at least twice during meals. Needless to say, when I learned that sitting still is self-care (well part of it), I kind of freaked out. 

So, back up, what is self-care?

The definition of self-care is often explained using three different types. And, they usually go a little something like this:

  • Physical- clean diet, lots of physical exercise, attention to hygiene, getting enough sleep, relaxed breathing
  • Emotional- saying positive affirmations, surrounding self with good company, thinking in quietness, accepting personal feelings, practicing self-compassion
  • Spiritual- praying, meditating, reading the Bible, going to church

Basically, when you think of the concept, it’s anything that resets your mind, body, or soul to a healthy level. If you wonder how a SAHM stays sane, self-care has got to be a part of it.

Sitting still is self-care for moms
Sitting Still Tips

And now, before we go further, I must confess.

I suck at self-care. Well, okay, not suck. I mean, when I participate, I totally rock it. But that’s the deal. If I were to say things correctly, I’m not good at practicing self-care every day. Without making excuses, I’m just going to say that, from this day forward, I promise to do tidbits of it daily. Furthermore, with my pledge, I nominated sitting still as the most necessary part.

With all broadness in definition, why choose sitting still?

Why choose the action that is the most difficult for me? Why pick the one that goes against my basic nature? Because, dear mamas, it will become intentional. I will really, purposefully, need to focus on the goal in order to accomplish it, every single day. In addition to that, I also think it’s the most effective. Just think about it. When you sit still, you allow for relaxed breathing, thinking in quietness, and meditation. All three types, covered with one act.

So, if sitting still is self-care, how do we do it?


  1. First, prepare. You’re going to be “away” for 20 minutes. Turn off notifications, make sure the kids are tended for (or sleeping), etc.
  2. Then, go to a space that is quiet and comfortable enough to sit for 20 minutes.
  3. Sit in a comfortable position, ideally Indian style. Make sure your back is straight and your head relaxed, facing forward.
  4. Close your eyes.
  5. Breathe in slowly, 3 times.
  6. Next, open your eyes and just sit quietly.
  7. Let your mind wander, but try to keep it positive.
  8. Also, try not to keep your mind on the clock.
  9.  Don’t use loud alarms. You don’t want to shock yourself into an alert state. Just guess what you feel is the correct amount of time.
  10. Ultimately, just long enough to relax. The more you practice, the more you’ll get a better sense of what 20 minutes is.

In conclusion, sitting is self-care. And, just the same, as parents, we have to do a little something daily move closer to self-actualization. Let me know if this article has influenced you to try it. Also, if you’d like to stay in the loop, subscribe to the Fullest Mom Newsletter. I tend to go a little deeper into our conversations through it, kind of like a subscriber perk.

So, for now, remember, when your hands are full, live your life to the fullest.


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  • Stefani @ Crafty Christian

    Love these tips! I’ve been trying to get more into meditation, but I can’t on my own. I need to use guided meditation to be able to drown out the sound of my own mind going 1000000000 mph!

    Stefani @ Crafty Christian
    • Post authorFullestMom

      It can be tough. Guided meditation is good, too, though. All the best. Take care.

  • Erin

    Insightful post. I have never thought of sitting still as self-care, but there is so much to sitting still that it IS a complex process. I tend to go with a yoga DVD the mornings I can wake up before everyone else int he house. The end of the practice is a laying. quiet, meditative time and after the poses, it’s one of the only times I can fully appreciate being still and let my body relax. It makes me realize how much stress and tension I am actually holding in my body. Great post!

    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you. This is something that needs a lot of intention to do. Clearing one’s mind for 20 minutes has amazing results though. Yoga is another good one.

  • Laura Roth

    Such good tips. And perfectly timed for my crazy life!

    Laura Roth
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Awww, all the best. Motherhood is the busiest season of them all. Take care. Thank you for your comment.

  • Elizabeth Doren

    I think church is a great way to start. It’s an hour every week in self reflection. Our church has a kids daycare of sorts where we get time to ourselves.

    Elizabeth Doren
    • Post authorFullestMom

      I need the spiritual guidance as well. But sometimes, when you want to hear the preacher’s message, your mind is not clear enough to truly meditate. Give it a try for at least 5 totally quiet minutes. It’ll make a huge difference.

  • Stacy- Taylor411

    It’s amazing what 20 minutes of peace and quiet can do! I am horrible at self care since I’ve have my children. I need to get better.

    Stacy- Taylor411
    • Post authorFullestMom

      You are not alone. You are mom and caretaker. It’s easy to put yourself last. Even if you wait until bed time, take just a brief pause and sit completely still. You will be amazed what a short moment can do.

  • Leah

    It sounds so simple, but sitting still is hard for me! If I sit down for 20 minutes, I want to be reading, journaling, etc. I am going to try this. But not to day. I have two chapters to finish for our small group tonight 🙂

    • Post authorFullestMom

      Yes, it’s a big challenge for me, too. We are instilled with the thought that we always have to “do” something. But that robs us of our ability to hear and just think/reflect. Take a short moment each day, and it will make a complete difference.

  • Casey@mommaandthepea

    I have a hard time sitting still too, but it is a needed activity to calm the mind!

    • Post authorFullestMom

      Yes, ma’am. Sitting still has to be completely intentional. But the benefits are overwhelming.

  • Shann Eva

    Sitting still is definitely hard for me too. I tend to do a ton of things at the same time, and feel like I’m just getting behind if I only do one thing. Sitting and doing nothing would really be a challenge, but a good one. It’s actually not doing nothing, though. It really will help my mind, so thank you for the tips.

    Shann Eva
    • Post authorFullestMom

      I know it’s unconventional, especially for a mom. We are ingrained to multitask.But that can lead to clutter of the mind and essentially, spinning our wheels. Taking time to think and meditate will fine tune your focus and refresh your thoughts.

    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you! Start with only 5 minutes if needed. A little goes a long way and you can build.

  • Tiffany |

    This is wonderful advice. I also have a hard time remembering to practice self care. It is so easy as a mom and wife to focus on everyone else’s needs and forget your own. Thank you for this reminder and for providing a simple but highly impactful form of self care.

    Tiffany |
    • Post authorFullestMom

      You’re welcome. Mom need to be in top condition to lead the squad. Even a little 5 minute sit down can make all the difference. Give my the best to you and your family. Take care.

  • Alexandria

    With so many ideas on long elaborate rituals to go through for self care, this post was really refreshing! Thank you for reminding us that self care can be simple!

    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you. Many times, you have to start with the basics to get the best results. Take care mama. And thanks again for your comments.

  • April

    Sitting still…. It seems so simple, yet it’s something we never do!! Thanks for your suggestions, your tools, and your ideas. I’m definitely sharing this and printing a list out to keep close by.

    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you. It’s true, busy moms rarely stay still. The moment of sitting still will be such a refresher!

  • Inez

    Years ago, I learned to take 10 minutes of silence every day. It’s kind of crazy how hard it is and how much of a difference it makes! Great tip!

    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you. Moms usually don’t take the time to have silence and concentration. Start with just 5, or in your case 10. You’ll be amazed.

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