“My Child Made Me Cry.” Mom of Three Explains That SAHM Blues Can Happen Even to Experienced Moms

SAHM Blues; It Can Happen Even With Experienced Moms

SAHM Blues Can Happen to Even Experienced Moms

Is there a proper way to introduce this subject? Sometimes Screw it, ALL THE TIME, I avoid talking about THIS subject. Why? Because I have three children. Because, I’m supposed to be one of those experienced types. I’m mean, for my family to hear I’m having a hard time this late in the game… For my family to hear that my child made me cry… Won’t they question what have I been doing all of these years? Frankly, if life has dealt you a few blows and you feel like you can’t avoid the SAHM blues (even though you are a seasoned mom), I’m here to help. Let’s look at the scenario together and discuss things we can do to improve our mood. Continue reading for more.

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SAHM Blues; It Can Happen To The Best Of Us
SAHM Blues; It Can Happen To The Best Of Us

Did you rest last night?

The experienced part of me is not questioning the existence of sleep. I’m actually asking about rest. The difference? Sleep is the whole process of REM drifting and dream sequences. Rest, is just being able to relax.

Honey, I haven’t slept through the night in over 6 years.

Don’t jude me, that’s just how it is when there is always a newborn in the house. On top of that, add a child that is constantly leaving their bed to cuddle, another one that has coughing fits, and a hubby that returns to the home after college night courses… (stupid engineering degree.)

Understandably, some may say, “Why haven’t you gotten that mess together?” To be honest, given all the undeclared dynamics, to me, this is together. But we are totally digressing. So, did you rest last night? The key is having some form of down time, non-movement, for at least a couple of consecutive hours every night. Sure, sitting still is equally satisfying, but the ultimate rest occurs after several hours. It goes without saying, I notice my SAHM blues tends to kick up when I lack rest.

What about your vitamins?

Particularly speaking, vitamin D. Although there are over the counter forms, intaking vitamin D directly from a natural source is the best. What am I talking about? The sun. Sitting in the high sun for about 10 minutes with your skin exposed will enable your body to produce it’s own vitamin D. Vitamin D has important roles in the body, including modulation of cell growth, neuromuscular and immune function, reduces inflammation, as well as aids in calcium absorption. If you want a little help shaking the SAHM blues, then you are going to need a little daily sun exposure.

It’s important to make room for the little things.

I can have anything in this world. Additionally, I have a very supporting family and we combine together to make ends meet. Yet, I find myself denying certain purchases or practices because I’ve got my mommy cap on. Sometimes, if we’re not careful, we can be too self-deprecating and totally X out anything that brings us further joy. Now, I’m not one to really equate material possessions as joy, (read about my home here); however, every once in a while, I feel it’s important to get that cute catch-phrased coffee mug because it makes you smile. Heck, even when it’s on sale, too.

Same goes with entertainment. To stop the SAHM blues, you are going to have to watch a little adult TV every once in a while. Constantly, having Sesame Street on rotation will drive anyone bonkers. I can’t tell you how good it felt when I discovered the show This Is Us! Seriously, I ugly cried on at least 5 episodes and the complexity of my adult brain was rejoicing. We need things that are meant for us (adults), and a little time away from kidville.


SAHM Blues; Tips to overcome mom's everyday struggle.
SAHM Blues; Tips to overcome mom’s everyday struggle.

List of other feel good activities:

  • Go on a walk with a friend.
  • Burry your feet in the sand.
  • Look at baby pictures.
  • Take a painting class.
  • Hide in a fort with your kids.
  • Cook something sweet.
  • Read WIRED magazine.
  • Sit in a hammock outside for an afternoon.

SAHM blues does not last forever.

In most cases, SAHM blues is not a permanent thing. In fact, some moms may experience it multiple times, especially if they have multiple children. It is important to note, if you go over 6 consecutive months with sadness, then visit your doctor or therapist. I hope this post has helped, and I’m looking forward for your feedback. PPD (or postpartum depression) can recycle itself after every birth. It’s okay to go through ups and downs.

Until then, when your hands are full, live your life to the fullest.

Sincerely,

Fullest Mom

 

 

 

Comments

  1. Marcie says:

    This is a great post! I’m a SAHM of 2 and I notice that I get the blues when I’m not sleeping, when my hubby is sick, or when I’m just not eating. It’s so easy to stay in Mommy-Mode where it’s a never-ending cycle of doing things for other people and taking care of everyone else’s needs. I think there is a stigma that if you get the blues with subsequent children that you must not know what you’re doing. That’s just not true.

    1. FullestMom says:

      Thank you Marcie, for your comments. There is a stigma, but I think we can try to spread awareness to it. Truth be told, no one, no matter how many kids, has it ALL figured out. I agree with you 100%. Bless you and your family.

  2. Jennifer says:

    I definitely have my share of SAHM blues. There are good days and not so good days. My blues happen usually when I am not staying busy or getting out of the house enough. Sometimes I just long for an adult conversation!

    1. FullestMom says:

      That is true. We need to change the scenery every once in a while. The good thing is you know what your triggers are. Here’s to all the good days <3

  3. Margie says:

    Discovering how to use humor to transform SAHM blues saved my sanity!!! I started thinking about what my most frustrating problems were, then cracked jokes about them, first verbally to friends in playgroup, then visually in cartoon-form.
    After 14 years of appearing in parenting papers I have published a collection of them in “Mom’s Comedy Coloring Book”. It worked… I am now ( relatively) sane!

    1. FullestMom says:

      AMEN! Humor and finding laughter does help. Have to take things in stride. Congrats on all of your sane success. Will have to check it out.

  4. Tina says:

    This is all so true! I actually experience it more now with four kids than the first time, so I guess you don’t become experienced. I also knew when it was time to get some help, and am taking medication (hopefully temporarily – it’s not a permanent solution). The rest versus sleep is spot on. I am now 8+ years without sleeping through the night. I always say, just let me get enough time laying in the bed at least!

    1. FullestMom says:

      Isn’t it weird? It can pop up even if you’re not a first time mom. All the best to you and your family. You’re perseverance is the glue <3

  5. Ashly J says:

    This is an awesome and so truthful post on being a SAHM. I can totally relate! I am guilty of so many of these and yes I have recently been feeling the SAHM Blues. Thank you for the advice I may just take you up on some of those!

    1. FullestMom says:

      Thank you Ashly. I’m happy to see they were helpful. Bless you mama, and your littles.

  6. Georgiana says:

    YES, THIS! Everything you said is so, so true. Rest is something that’s in short supply around here (and shouldn’t be–my kids sleep now!) Taking this to heart–thanks for talking about it.

    1. FullestMom says:

      Thank you Georgiana 🙂 All the best to you and yours. I hope everyone gets the rest soon.

  7. Meghna says:

    Wow! Very insightful article. The sahm blues are real. I think one more important point is ” asking for help”. It’s important to delegate or depend on others too once in a while.

  8. Emily says:

    This is a really good post. I was once there too. I am also a SAHM of 3 who experienced the blues and depression. And after trying everything I can . I finally went to see a doctor and she advised me to try some natural supplements. These are some that really helped me out and I began to feel normal again. I tried chaste berry extract 225mg and L tryptophan 500mg. I recommend for any SAHM with the blues to try it. It really helps.

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