Love Motherhood Deeply and Build Your Home Intentionally
December 13, 2016

Love Motherhood Deeply and Build Your Home Intentionally

Love Motherhood Deeply and Build Your Home Intentionally

Becoming a mom will change you. As much as female empowerment proclaims, “I’m still going to hold onto myself,” when you become a mom, it’s really time to let that mess go. No doubt, you can enjoy life (tinker with whatever you did pre-children); but in essence, being a mom will consume you. That is okay. Embrace it. By finding happiness and learning to love motherhood deeply, you can find rest even in the overwhelm.

 

Tips to Love Motherhood Deeply
Tips to Love Motherhood Deeply

Because everyone has bad days.

We have days when our homes are destroyed, both literally and metaphorically. We’ve yelled at the kids. We’ve thrown dishes (or at least, admittedly, I have.) As moms, we can have bad days; and not love motherhood deeply, or even at all. Sometimes, it is beyond our understanding as to why God chose us for this care-taking role.

Building a strong home
Our roof after the fire

…And then, more curveballs come. The LITERAL part of the destruction of our homes. No one prepares us for the bad days when the actions were not ours, and things went out of control.

We had a house fire. It was a battery on a charger that started in the garage.  It took only ten seconds to spread to the remainder of the house. We barely made it across the street when the rest of the explosions started. There were no injuries. They deemed it a total loss. Not so total, in my opinion.

Before and After. Rebuild Your Home Intentionally.
Top: 4 months after. Bottom: 1 year after.

Don’t we all just want to relate?

Fast forward to a year and 8 months later. A time after all the crying, and displacement, and insurance litigation. A time, such as now, when we are moved back in and starting to refurbish. My soul has matured with all of the previous challenges our family has faced. In the literal sense, we’re going to keep it minimalistic. You can see our first steps in mindful decor here on my Instagram feed.

Love Motherhood Deeply and Rebuild Intently
1 year and 8 months after

However, in the metaphorical sense of rebuilding my family, there is not so much strategy. I want to build up my home intentionally. Yet, I still struggle with loving motherhood deeply. It’s mind-boggling because everyday mental flashbacks show that I was so close to not even being a mommy anymore. It’s that inner drive that wants to reach others that are also struggling. Or, more precisely, others that just want to know they are human; and that somebody out there relates.

Viewpoints on motherhood vary.

Sure, we are good moms. Great moms, too. We cook dinner and play with the kids. We take them places and tuck them in at night. From sun up to sun down, everything is dealt with for the sake of our families. But, without judgment (because every household is different), I really want to honestly ask, is being a mom ever 100% sunshine and roses? Does it get easier?

Can we face motherhood eye to eye? Are we able to grab it, and shake it, and accept it… just as it is?

My answer is a straight up, hell yes! Sure, viewpoints on motherhood vary; yet, on the other hand, I’ve found commonality for the yearning of love. In regards to our loved ones, our hearts beat passionate and strong with potential. We ALL desire the best for our children. We ALL want to love motherhood deeply.

Open your heart and love motherhood deeply
Open your heart and love motherhood deeply

Ways to love motherhood deeply:

  1. Look at your child’s old photographs. Nothing pulls at the heartstrings more than seeing your child when they were at their most innocent. Looking at photos from the infant stage will rekindle the passionate flames of motherhood within your heart.
  2. Think about all the challenges you’ve overcome. Whether it is teething, colic, or broken bones, remember your strength and how you and your family pushed passed. You are a strong mom with many stripes of courage.
  3. Understand that perfect is really imperfect. The best of motherhood is not choreographed or Instagram worthy. It is sparatic and imperfect.
  4. Write in a journal. This journal will have the specific task of expressing your dreams and desires for your child. Keep a sacred place to manifest all of your hopes for them. Additionally, refer to it on the tough days and keep high regard for your family within your thoughts.
  5. Hug them often. Something changes in our neurons when we hug the ones we love. Plus it just plain feels good to get a squeeze from your smiling child.
  6. Help a child outside of your home. Sometimes, we need a reminder of how to have a servant’s heart for others. Helping a child outside of your home will give you a fresh frame of reference.
  7. Sit still and breathe. Clear your head. Get some fresh air. Calm down and pray.

Lastly, go step by step.

Finally, to love motherhood deeply, you have to take it one step at a time. There is no magical rule book in parenting. In conclusion, I encourage you to find other moms to lean on for support and join our newsletter. Additionally, shoot me a message or comment below if you ever need a pick me up. Until then, remember the motto. When your hands are full, live your life to the fullest.

Sincerely,

Fullest Mom

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25 comments

  • Amanda

    This is an amazing post. As a mom I have to take it day by day. It’s the only way I’ll make it or I feel like I will go nuts.

    Amanda
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you for your comment. Yes, I agree. When we slow down, we can get through it.

      FullestMom
  • shann eva

    I love this! Those tips to love motherhood deeply are wonderful. In the day-to-day craziness and challenges, it’s very easy to lose sight of what is really important. I need to do many of these things more often so I can get the most out of motherhood. It all goes by so fast.

    shann eva
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Yes. In a flash, they grow up. Thank you for commenting. All the best to your and your family.

      FullestMom
  • Stacy- Taylor411

    Great post, I’m so sorry your house burnt but happy that everyone was safe and you could rebuild. You left some great tips and I know I have to go step by step. I haven’t broke any dishes yet lol but I’ve came close 😊

    Stacy- Taylor411
    • Post authorFullestMom

      No worries about the house. We have been blessed and all if finished now. Thank you and glad the tips were helpful. Take care.

      FullestMom
  • Georgiana

    I can’t even imagine going through what you have. So thankful that you are all okay and that you were able to come out of it stronger. Yes….love motherhood deeply. I am truly a better person than I would be without our children.

    Georgiana
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you Georgiana. Our paths are never our own, but by do they prepare us! Have a great day, love.

      FullestMom
  • Stefani @ Crafty Christian

    Such a wonderful post, Candy! You’ve got some great tips. And you’re so right, sometimes I yell and throw dishes and don’t love motherhood at all. But I love it so much, sometimes I just need to reconnect. XOXO

    Stefani @ Crafty Christian
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you for your comments. I’ve very happy the post was relatable. Sometimes we wonder if we’re the only ones. Big hug to you. Take care and xoxo back.

      FullestMom
  • Belle

    I just love this! I agree that being a mother really does change you in a lot of ways you couldn’t imagine. Beautifully written.

    Belle | One Awesome Momma

    Belle
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you so much Belle.

      FullestMom
  • LadyNOD

    Amen to such a character building journey but thank God for one step at a time 🙏🏽💞

    LadyNOD
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you LadyNOD. It is true. Growth happens step by step. Bless you and your family.

      FullestMom
  • April

    This is TRULY an inspiring post. I loved it from top to bottom and can honestly say that your words will be with me for quite sometime. Thank you.

    April
    • Post authorFullestMom

      And thank you mama for commenting. It’s helpful to know that mamas are relating to the post. We all need to unite and encourage one another. Take care.

      FullestMom
  • Samantha

    I love this. Everything is spot on.

    Samantha
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you so much.

      FullestMom
  • Lacey

    Thank you for sharing such an amazing post! It is so easy to get caught up in the day to day frustrations and forget about the joy motherhood really truly does bring us. And I have to say you are one strong momma to have moved on so gracefully after the fire. That couldn’t have been easy.

    Lacey
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you for the comments Lacey. It flashes in my mind many times. All it boils down to was that everyone was safe. I am lucky to see that life has moved on, and stuff has been replaced. I really needed the wakeup call. May all your days be laced with perseverance, and strength. Have a blessed day.

      FullestMom
  • Diana

    Love this post!! Thanks for all the advice =)

    Diana
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Thank you, Diana. Have a terrific day.

      FullestMom
  • Farrah

    Love this post! Thank you for all of the tips! I feel so blessed to be able to say I’m a mom and there is nothing I love more!

    Farrah
    • Post authorFullestMom

      Amen, Farrah. All the best to you. Stay strong and stay proud. #motherhoodRock just as it is. On the days you get messy, or tested, and everything in between, may your heart beat forward. Take care.

      FullestMom
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