Raise your hand if you are the keeper of your home. You built your home intentionally; and as the main doers and makers of hospitality within our dwelling, the tasks can get pretty intense. To put it more honestly, household chores suck. There are infinite piles of laundry, dust everywhere, and fingerprints all over our stainless steel fridge. Basically, all the things that make us want to scream.
Dear mamas, let’s talk about this for a minute. There are reasons we have this mindset is because of our perspective. I’m going to share my 8 reasons why the household chores suck and what we can do about it.
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Does this sound familiar?
I have a thing with blankets. If it’s not in use, it needs to be in the closet. Folded. Nicely. Thank you.
My three kids, on the other hand, think differently. They desire the warmth. They desire the softness. So, they tend to like the blankets left on the couch.
As pleasant as that is, I know my kids. I know that after 2 minutes of cuddling under the blanket, they forget why they wanted it in the first place. The blanket is then tossed on to the floor. The vicious cycle of closet, couch, floor repeats at least three to four times a day. It all feels like it’s in vain.
I want to tell you that it is definitely NOT in vain.
Repetitive, yes. But they mean something… I invite you to read further to learn why household chores suck, then after reviewing all of my points, let’s see if our minds can be persuaded.
1: You haven’t learned to let go.
Let go of that cleaning schedule. Real-life happens.
The household chores suck because every single Monday, rain or shine, you have to dust the furniture. That means you’re basing your happiness on completion of the task. If the task is not complete, your mood turns totally somber.
Is that any way to live?
You’re going to have to trust me on this one. I walk this fine tightrope, too. After all the tears, and broken expectations, I’ve learned that things of that nature have to be let go. My priority needs to go to my calling and not always to my assignments. That includes house chores.
My calling is to be a disciple of Jesus, a loving wife, and a mother. My assignment in between all of that is the cooking and the cleaning. When I disgrace my role as a mother, by, let’s say, yelling at the kids for putting fingerprints on my recently dusted furniture, I feel the strong conviction of guilt. Something keeps pulling at my emotions and I know I messed up.
That’s not to say that chores are not our responsibility. It’s also not to say that work should not be done. It is simply to say that our happiness mustn’t be dependent on finishing assignments. If things interrupt or don’t go as plan, understanding that everything will be okay.
2: You are focused on perfection.
This ties closely with learning to let go. If the household chores suck, it’s because they are focused too much on perfection and not enough on actual function. For example, you need to do the laundry. With that being said, does it really need to be washed in a different detergent for each family member, dried with special dryer sheets, ironed, and hung on color-coded hangers? Do all the socks really have to match?
I get it. As a freelancer that provides writing services, I sometimes have to pass out business cards face to face. I need to look neat and presentable while delivering pitches. However, at the end of the day, I’m back in my yoga pants with my family. They are the ones that matter. If I scream at them for breaking up my perfection routine, what more then can I offer? Money from my clients? Will that make them happy when a few hours earlier I had them in tears? Most likely not.
I’m not judging.
Let’s pause for a minute. I want you to know that I’m not judging you. Heck if anything, I’m judging myself. I wrote this post because I lived it. We all mess up sometimes. We all have the ability to ask for grace. I’ve learned something from it and that is why I share. When I use the term “you”, know that I am solely using it from a hypothetical standpoint. It is not to personally attack any one individual. Moreover, it’s only for the sake of this article.
3: You made it your home, not your family’s.
As stated earlier, I like the blankets in a certain place. However, I never considered my family’s thoughts. Perhaps the couch is the most logical place. Maybe it makes them feel the most secure. I expect coats to be hung on their hooks, but never have I considered that the kiddos are too short to keep them there. The household chores suck because the system in place does not cater to the entire family. It’s time to rearrange things so that the organizational systems are helpful to all.
4: Household chores suck because you haven’t considered this verse.
Recently, I was exposed to a very transformative verse in the Bible. It made my entire thoughts of cleaning the house come into perspective.
“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,” – Colossians 3:23
Everything you do within the home, try your best to do it with some oomph. We are working for the Lord, not for ourselves.
5: You are not delegating enough.
Is there a young one capable of vacuuming? Can your 4-year-old put their toys into their own toy box? Delegate part of the workload whenever possible.
6: You’re doing them in the wrong order.
Have you started the day by mopping the floors; then afterward, cleaning the bathrooms? After all that, your next attempt is to complete the laundry. It’s 7 pm and that means another 2 hours before the clothes are washed and dried. Let’s not even talk about the folding.
The household chores suck the life out of you because you’re doing them in the wrong order. For tasks that run in the background, like laundry, start them first. Set a timer on your phone for 1 hour (the time most laundry cycles take). Do something productive within that hour, and as soon as it’s ready, throw the washed clothes in the dryer.
7: You’re trying to do it all in one day.
Furthermore, to go with the point above, the seventh reason household chores suck is because you’re trying to tackle them all in the same day. Pace yourself, and thank me later. If you wonder why the kids are always interrupting your work, this is why.
8: You diminish the value of your hard work.
It’s true. You don’t think of things like washing dishes or folding towels as accomplishments. Someone that lives in a constant mindset of aimlessness can really lead themselves into depression. To make the household chores not as bad, you have to appreciate them as contributions to your family. Don’t diminish the value of your hard work. Find happiness where you are.
And that, my dear mamas, sums this whole post up. I’d love for you to comment with your experiences. Let’s open a dialogue to help each other and lift up those that need encouragement… even amidst all the household cleaning routines.
When your hands are full, live life to the fullest.