How to Find SAHM Happiness and Enjoy Raising Toddlers
When a parent chooses to stay at home, the doors of opportunity open. Every parent dreams of the marvelous bonding time they will have with their children. I mean, just look at Instagram. There are a million pictures of naked baby butts and smiling mommies holding them. But, what if the truth behind those pictures grew dark and cabin fever set in? (Face it, stay at home parents actually… you know, stay at home.) It took me months to adjust, but looking back, I’m so glad I did. This post will explain how to find SAHM happiness long after the initial appeal wears off.
Realize this is the new normal.
One of the biggest things that SAHM’s have trouble with is the fact that THIS is the new normal. The notion rings especially true if, prior to staying at home, the parent was working full time. It’s a complete culture shock when the labor of work goes from computer screens and power lunches to dirty diapers and pacifiers.
Now, don’t let this scare you. Just understand that we cannot change the direction of the wind, we can only change our sails. Are you a stay at home mom? Rock it. Own it. Yoga pants and all. You’ll be surprised how far a positive perspective will take you. There are tricks to survive when you are home all day.
Take things one step at a time.
For me, I am way too goal oriented. I have this terrible habit of writing lists and pressing hard to complete them. That’s all fine and dandy; but, it can be overwhelming. Think about it, you already have an individual, (or two, or three), that depends 100% on you. While you cannot completely let things go by the wayside, you have to learn to pace yourself. Take things one step at a time. And, that leads me to my very next tip on how to find SAHM happiness…
First, you have to consider what is most important. You are only one person. You can only do one thing at a time. Obviously, I do not believe in multitasking. I sincerely think it’s better to work smarter, not harder.
So, when it all boils down, you have to prioritize and do the things that need your attention the most. For me, as long as everyone has at least 1 pair of clean underwear, we are all good. (Kids always end up naked at home, anyways.) So mama, enjoy the time with your toddlers. Put them first, then itemize the rest.
Talk about it.
Furthermore, to find SAHM happiness, you have to be assertive with how you feel. Having honest conversations with your spouse, relatives, or trusted friends can help tremendously. In our post about SAHM burnout, we stated the same thing. Why? Because it’s true. It’s so easy to become isolated when you are a stay at home mom. If you keep your feelings bottled up, you are bound to collapse.
Lastly, just freaking laugh.
There are times when you have to let go and laugh. For instance, every time when I do laundry, my littlest one always finds a way to interrupt and make a mess of things. I used to get frustrated until I realized why she was doing it. It was fun. It gave her joy. So, instead of grinding my teeth I just sat down and tossed laundry, too. She started laughing, so I started laughing. It was a good time and I let go of all anxieties.
Sure, the laundry lacked; however, a grander task was fulfilled. My soul was content and, at that moment, I was able to find SAHM happiness. There is an awe-inspiring time when we learn to enjoy life for more than its accomplishments. We begin to enjoy for the sake of feelings.
In conclusion, I hope this post gives you insight on how to be happy as a stay at home mom. Let me know your thoughts, or even more tips, on how you manage your day. When your hands are full, live your life to the fullest.